What are the danger signs that I may be embarking into a very SICK RELATIONSHIP?
The real reason for a life long partnership is for HELPMATES to Love and help one another. To relate to one another and show empathy. To bring out the best in one another and allow one another to reach their purpose in life spiritually. If your partner is a hindrance to your goals, dreams, and purpose you may be in a sick relationship.
Quantum Recovery = Recovery that is made faster and easier by spiritual helps. A recovery key of sorts into a realm of higher support team actions that make your overcoming addiction a fact in real time.
God gives us chances on earth to live when death is at hand. He allows us grace periods to see when we are blind. And there are windows of opportunity literal and spiritual that we can feel in our heart of hearts when they appear. For instance, if we were/are an addict in need of deliverance, a window would open in a 24 hour period in which if we made the right choice sobriety would come much easier and roll out like a magic red carpet even though the processes of recovery are very long and emotionally treacherous. With the right people at the right time we learn. Our choice would present a momentum toward good and healing
My Experience and Opinions for reasons people become addicts do not negate the need to do 12 step work, get a sponsor, and make amends etc to recover..
There is a valid reason you do not want to feel
If you ended up in the psych ward due to some antics you engaged in because of addiction or alcoholism then it’s time. Are you done? There is a reason that you feel better when your numb. There is a reason that you are uncomfortable in your own skin. As a matter of fact…since I have been sober over 14 years this time I have learned exactly the precise and many varied reasons I was uncomfortable and down right ashamed in my own skin.
So many times, during the first two years of recovery I felt as if I was somehow doing something wrong in my recovery or that something was not right with my progress. I used to feel like my feelings themselves where wrong. Especially if I were sad or fearful, on the edge of depression or angry. I was fortunate to have effective group therapy which when combined with Alcoholics Anonymous kept me and several of my rehab-mates sober for a very long time. We all had sexual abuse in our past and took our addiction to places we were ashamed of. But I learned THERE IS NO WRONG FEELING, EVER. THEY ALL COME FROM A VALID PLACE AND ARE THERE FOR A VALID REASON. We don’t allow our feelings to rule us but intense feelings should be processed.
How Newly Recovering Addicts and Alcoholics can start a whole new career via Etsy Seller.
First I have to say, Etsy, Amazon, and eBay protect their buyers from being ripped off just like eBay or Amazon would, if not more so. But also, none of these selling platforms won’t ask you for your work history or your criminal history. If you are responsible, and can be relied upon for respectful communication and treatment of customers and you sell a good hand made product, they WILL give you a chance to excel in their seller platform. If you show yourself unreliable and customer unfriendly, well then you should not be in sales anyway and you would not grow in Etsy seller.
All you need to start is a product and a Paypal or bank account for the sales to flow into.
Common Scenario of a sober recovering addict
Your clean and sober but no one will hire you locally because you have a criminal record. You have changed your ways, buy no one sees that. All they see is the fact that you stole a candy bar in 2015 and went to jail. You were drunk at the time and have recently gone to Alcoholics Anonymous or Narcotics Anonymous. You got a year probation and NOBODY will hire you even though your more honest now than you have EVER BEEN. All your AA sponsor can say is “expect distrust you have earned it!” UHG!
Well guess what? Online work may be right up your ally. Not to mention sober recovering addicts tend to be very creative. All we need do is practice our step eleven meditation, use our imagination, find our artistic flare and start creating something people want or need. Then we put our products or art on a listing in Etsy Seller and be patient for the sales to start happening.
Don’t quit before the miracle happens. It took me a good year to start making money on Etsy. In the mean time I settled for an eBay and Amazon seller account which, just didn’t make the grade compared to Etsy systems and software. Amazon and eBay started with a bang and fizzled out with a soft cry, while my Etsy store did a slow-grow-dance, the system testing my business along the way, as it flowered into a thriving burst of colorful energy painted with authentic handmade jewelry and outfits galore, with a steady income to boot.
Which in turn helps you recognize patterns of behavior and threats of relapse.
Know your enemy. Know your addict….know yourself. Love your enemy, Love your addict, Love yourself.
Addiction Cunning & Baffling Indeed
THE BAFFLING PART OF ADDICTION EXPLAINED. How does an emotional pain morph into spiritual blindness and darkness that would cause a man to self destruct?
Clearing up the EMOTIONAL wreckage of the past makes us less vulnerable to actions of fear and hurt toward self and others. Confessing our greatest fear(s) DOES render them powerless over us. In this sense we ARE as sick as our secrets. Shame is the leverage of darkness. Yet “shame” is something humans seldom want to explore within themselves to irrigate it with light. Why?
Because we are taught to never allow ourselves to be vulnerable. The deception is that if we expose our fear to the light people will use it against us. However it’s not the people that we need to be concerned with when it comes to fear. But rather the leverage of spiritual darkness in high places who exploit unconfessed shame. Every fourth step should include a shame and fear list that needs spoken out loud. The fear list should be repeated until it becomes a way of life to expose shame and fear to the light.
If you like this you may like Laura’s book “Paradise for the Hellbound”. It is not a typical Biblical text. And the book is not bent on social status quos. Read it free: http://www.recoveryfarmhouse.net/paradise-for-the-hellbound/
Addiction is not a Disease, but rather it is a spiritual malady and force of habit. It is a poor self image and the presence of a broken heart. Our heart can be healed and our habits can be changes. We won’t relapse if we take the time to respect ourselves enough to realize not only did we hurt others but others hurt us deeply. The certainly taught us as children that we were inferior and bad. So we spent the rest of our days trying to prove that it wasn’t true while our own hearts believed that it was.
Disclaimer: This article holds nothing back. It is not a blame game but rather has identified common reasons for addiction. Taking responsibility for our healing and recovery is still imperative to our emotional health. But for those who do find addiction “cunning and baffling” this explains common causes. If you want solutions they are all over this website but clearly this article is not solution oriented. See The Cure: http://www.recoveryfarmhouse.net/addiction-is-no-longer-baffling-to-me-and-many-others/
We Addicts have been conditioned to demoralize one another.